Confidence, Not Ego

I have a confession: I like reality TV shows.

I’m a sucker for Project Runway, America’s Next Top Model, Hell’s Kitchen, Zumbo’s Just Desserts, Ultimate Beast Master, Scream Queens, and RuPaul’s Drag Race. I love watching people show their creativity, their passion, and their talent. Each of these shows has a piece of my personality. The love of creating, the love of photo shoots, Gordon Ramsey yelling, looking at cool-looking desserts, wanting to be a real-life ninja, the love of acting, and drag.

However, with reality TV comes the worst kind of person: the cocky egotistical narcissist. There’s always someone who thinks they’re the greatest creation and that their shit don’t stink.

News flash: your personality is shit (which does, in fact, stink).

There will always be someone better than you, so take that into account. But also, even if you are great at something, humility goes a long way. As in, you’ll be more liked, ergo you’ll have more work opportunities. I’ll give you a couple of examples.

My idea for this post came from watching an episode of Project Runway. There was a contestant who was doing well. She was almost always at the top, or at the very least safe. She’s talented, no one can deny that. But, she let that inflate her dome a bit, and she started talking down to everyone around her. “I’m the best and I’m going to prove it by kicking the others down so they know their place: under my feet.” That is an ego issue. She ended up losing fans and is less of a success than others on her season. Even though she won that season. Whatever.

Then there’s Bianca Del Rio from RuPaul’s Drag Race. She knew she was great at what she did, but she never announced it. She never kicked anyone down. In fact, she helped others. She was confident enough in her own talent and ability that she didn’t feel the need to kick others down.

Anyway, the point is have confidence in your talent, your skill, your ability, your whatever. Know that you’re good at what you do. But don’t show off when unnecessary, and definitely don’t treat others like dirt under your feet. Self-respect and respect for others, yo!




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